⏳ 3 Minutes Read • Society Pressures
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“At 25 unafaa kuwa umepanga life yako.”
“At 27 unafaa kuwa umeoa.”
“At 30 lazima uwe na ploti na rentals kama mbili.”
Lakini swali ni moja: Nani aliandika hizi rules? Ni God? Gava? Ama ile elders’ WhatsApp group ya ushago?
Ju kusema tu ukweli, hizi “expectations” zinakaa ziliandikwa na msee ako na biz tatu, alirithi shamba kitambo, na hajawahi piga line Huduma Centre.
Ile Pressure Inakuwanga Chini ya Maji, Lakini Inauma...
Kuna pressure flani yenye huwa haiongelewi sana. Sio ya boss wako. Sio landlord. Ni ile ya society
Ile inakuongelesha usiku saa nane
...uki-scroll IG, unaona vijanaa wa 15 ama 18 wako Dubai, na saa hiyo ni mara yao ya tano...na wewe bado uko hapo, ukijaribu kuji-convince:
“siyuko broke, ni vile tu sijapata financial breakthrough...”
And that's okay.
Unajua, skuizi society imeweka timeline ya life ya boychild:
✓ 21 – Umemaliza campus
✓ 23 – Umepata job fiti
✓ 25 – Una drive, unaanza kujenga
✓ 28 – Umeoa, maybe na mtoi
✓ 30 – Uko na land, investments, Rolex
But what if uko 26...single, no child, hauna job, na labda bado unatuma “please call me” kwa mzazi?
Does that mean you've failed?
Not at all.
Lakini society itakufanya uskie ni kama wewe ni failure.
Mental Stress — Fear, Insecurities, Na Panic...
Ukweli ni hii, maboyz wengi huku nje hawaogopi kuanguka — wanaogopa kuachwa nyuma (F.O.M.O)
Yaani ile feeling ya:
👉🏽Kuona mabeshte wameomoka na wewe bado uko stuck
👉🏽Still wondering utawai move out lini, ama utafikisha 40 bado ukiambia aunties zako "I'm still figuring things out..."
👉🏽Kuogopa kukufa ukiwa broke, bila legacy...
👉🏽Kuji-compare na wasee, wenye hawajui hata unaexist...Both offline and online
Na hapo ndo anxiety huingia.
Then unajipata una-rush life — unawekela kila kitu... betting, crypto, forex, freelancing, binary etc. — hoping utaskip steps za success.
I've been there walai, trust me.
And I know most of you mnaeza relate.
Ama worse, unaji-isolate. Unahepa mabeshte. Unaona ni kama hauko worthy kuhang out na wasee wameomoka.
Mbona Tuna-compete Instead of Kuconnect?
Comparison haibebi tu joy — inachukua hadi identity yako mzima.
One thing I realized, society imetufundisha ku-compete, sio ku-connect.
So instead of building brotherhoods, tunaanza kuwa na silent beef:
“Anaearn how much?”
“Anaishi wapi?”
“Anadrive nini?”
“Ati beard yake iko aje bana?”
It's tiring, bro.
Most of us tunafight silent battles, and then tuna-smile in selfies.
Deep down, tunangoja tu msee aseme... “Bro, hata mimi nakapitia hivo hivo.”
At This Point, Society Needs Just to Chill
Let’s talk straight — society inachangia hii stress. Not 100% but maybe 99.99
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Wale wana-kupressure kuwa millionaire at 25 walikuwa tu wanachunga mbuzi ushago at that age, na kudodge polio vaccines. Most of them hata walikuwa irresponsible.
Uncles na aunties already wako na line yao favorite:
“Ooh...Sasa unafanya nini na life?”
Well, Aunty Mary, najaribu tu nisiruke akili juu ya hii economy, asante sana kwa concern.
First of all, Si lazima ukuwe na everything (or anything) at a certain age.
Also, society inafaa iache ku-recognise vijanaa by what they have, rather for what they're becoming.
But There's a Way to Deal with that Though..
Pausing ni Power — Usikimbilie life kama ni matatu, eti utaachwa. Kila msee ako na pace yake. Wengine wanaoa at 22, wengine 42.
First million ya msee inaweza fika hata akiwa 40. Relax.
Ongea na msee — Whether ni maboyz wako, mentor, ama therapist.
Silence sio toughness. Toughness ni kusema
“Bro, life inanichapa.”
Acha Kujicompare — Life ya social media ni edited.
Uyo msee ana-post soft life, maybe — just maybe... ako kwa deni ama anatumia Lightroom tu vizuri.
Normalize ku-celebrate wins kidogo kidogo — Uliamka mapema? Win.
Uliapply job leo? Win.
Umesoma angalau 30 minutes? Big W
Progress over Perfection — Growth sio lazima iwe loud.
Ata kuanza ku-save, ama kusoma kitu mpya... Still ni big move.
Wacha pressure ya kuomoka overnight.
Kwa Kila Msee Myoung Anasoma Hii...
Wewe hujachelewa.Wewe si failure.
And most importantly, hauko solo.
Life ni ngumu, true.
Especially time unafaa kuwa strong, successful, silent na sorted — all at once.
Lakini bro, unaruhusiwa:
Kukua polepole
Kukosa kuelewa life sometimes
Kupumzika bila guilt
Worth yako haiwezi pigwa hesabu na mali ama speed ya success — iko kwa bidii yako na resilience yako.
Mwisho Kabisa...
Wacha tubadilishe hii story ya society. Tuache kuona each other kama competition.
Tuanzishe brotherhoods — real.
Tujiachilie. Tufanye makosa. Tujaribu tena.
...Ni EXPECTATION gani ya society imekuchokesha mbaya?
Drop hapo kwa comments — tuanze story.
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